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​6 things a wedding guest should never do, according to wedding planners

Anyone who’s planned a wedding will know that however much you love your friends and family, it’s normally the guests who cause the biggest headache when it comes to the big day.

From constant text messages about the local parking situation, to that one guest who indulges in one too many G&Ts, there are plenty of ways to put undue pressure on the bride and groom.

So how can you avoid being the wedding guest of nightmares? We asked four wedding planners to share their advice on things a wedding guest should never do…

1. Complain about the date

“Never complain about the date, especially if it clashes with a big sports fixture” says Carolyn Louise, a South Wales-based wedding planner.

While we can’t imagine many of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s wedding guests complained about their nuptials clashing with the FA Cup Final, some couples to find themselves on the receiving end of guests’ disappointment regarding the wedding date – and it’s not going to make you popular.

It’s impossible for a couple to take every guests’ plans into consideration when picking a day (they will probably have checked the date with anyone considered essential before booking), so if the date isn’t ideal you just have to like it or lump it.

The same goes for other elements of the wedding, such as the location – if it’s inconvenient, feel free to politely explain that you can’t make it, but mouthing off to the couple will do you no favours.

2.

Take ages to RSVP A common complaint among brides and grooms-to-be is the snail’s pace at which guests respond to invites.

“You must always respond within the timeframe on the invite” says Chenai Bukutu, a wedding planner from London. “Put yourself in the couple’s shoes – they will be relying on confirmation of guest numbers for their venue and caterers, so communicate in a timely manner.”

Once you have RSVP’ed you should be 100% committed to going to the wedding, rather than changing your mind if a ‘better offer’ comes up.

However, occasionally there are circumstances where you can no longer go to the wedding, for example due to illness, urgent work commitments or the death of a family member. “If any of these events occur, get in touch the the couple as soon as you’re aware that you or your partner can no longer attend, and explain the situation” says Carolyn.

Promptness is key. MORE: THE ETIQUETTE MISTAKES YOU DIDN’T KNOW YOU WERE MAKING

3. Ask questions which you could answer yourself

There are a million and one details to think about when planning a wedding, and the last thing the bride needs is her Auntie Jane bombarding her with questions about whether the B&B will provide an ironing board.

Couples generally include as much information as they can in their invites, so it’s better to simply call the accommodation provider yourself, or Google details on transport or parking.

If you really must ask the bride and groom a question, do it as far as possible in advance of the wedding, before last-minute nerves have set in. “It’s ok to ask the couple questions a few months before the wedding; if it is less than a month, ask the venue coordinator, best man, bridesmaid or mother of the bride rather than bothering the couple” says Lisa Baker, wedding planner at Just Bespoke.

4. Quibbling over the guest list

Many brides and grooms are surprised to discover that some people deem the guest list to be negotiable.

All the wedding planners we spoke to were very clear – it is not okay to ask to bring extra people to a wedding.

“Weddings are one of the most expensive days of people’s lives, and guests should be grateful that they have been invited” says Carolyn.

Wedding stylist Katie Sutton agrees, saying “You need to remember that creating a guest list is very hard, and the couple can never please everyone. More often than not budget plays a big part. I’m sure that if a couple could, they would invite everyone, but you ultimately have to respect their wishes.”

Finances, the size of the venue and the prioritising of close family can all have an impact on who gets invited, so if you don’t get a plus one, try not to be offended.

The same goes for children – not everyone will want kids at their wedding, and as a guest you must accept this decision.

“While children can provide a lot of fun and entertainment, some couples would rather say their vows without a child screaming in the background” says Carolyn. “Think of it as a chance to leave the kids with a babysitter and have a night off!”

5. Trying to upstage the bride

We all want to look good when we attend a wedding, but there’s a difference between choosing a lovely dress and going out of your way to grab the limelight.

“Don’t wear white!” says Chenai. “Unless the bride has specifically said it’s ok, I would always err on the side of tradition.”

Trying to steal the couple’s thunder in other ways is also not advised. “No unplanned speeches or performances” says Chenai. “Unless you’ve been asked to contribute, don’t think you can rock the mic just because you’ve had a few glasses of fizz and feel extra confident.”

6. Causing trouble on the day It should really go without saying, but starting arguments, complaining or getting too drunk on the wedding day are all major no-nos.

“I’ve personally witnessed some outrageous behaviour at wedding that has caused the breakdown of friendships as a result” says Chenai.

Don’t complain about the food – the couple will have done their best to accommodate everyone’s dietary requirements, but it isn’t always possible to have multiple meal options (you can always quietly ask the waiting staff for some extra bread if you really are starving).

Telling inappropriate stories about the bride and groom is also discouraged, says Lisa (even best men should consider the suitability of their tales).

Above all, leave any family or friendship feuds outside of the venue – a loud argument is quickest way to get yourself blacklisted from all future events.

MORE: THE ONE ETIQUETTE RULE HOUSE GUESTS SHOULD NEVER BREAK (Images: Getty) Like this?

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People think royal wedding bridesmaid forgot something KEY in official photos

The world was delighted when Kensington Palace released the new Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s official wedding photos on Monday (21 May).
Two of the three shots, taken by photographer Alexi Lubomirski at The Green Drawing Room of Windsor Castle, showed the royal couple surrounded by their little bridesmaids and page boys, including Prince George and Princess Charlotte looking predictably adorable.

And, while most royal fans took to social media to comment on the cuteness of Meghan’s little helpers (especially Prince George with that cheeky grin of his!), some Twitter users they noticed something amiss…

The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have released three official photographs from their Wedding day. These photographs were taken by photographer Alexi Lubomirski at Windsor Castle, following the carriage procession. #RoyalWedding pic.twitter.com/WBim9EkI4D

— Kensington Palace (@KensingtonRoyal) 21 May 2018

In fact, they thought one of the bridesmaids, Florence Van Cutsem, had forgotten something rather important: her bouquet…

‘I NEED to know… why there weren’t enough bridesmaids bouquets for everyone? It is driving me nuts,’ wrote one user.

Others assumed the little one had just misplaced her flowers before the photos… ‘Love the little bridesmaid who has obviously lost her bouquet somewhere,’ said one, while another added: ‘Looks like one of the bridesmaids has lost her bouquet! Aww, bless!’

I NEED to know why Ivy Mulroney wasn’t wearing a flower wreath, and why there weren’t enough bridesmaids bouquets for everyone?

It is driving me nuts. #RoyalWedding

— Kelly HG (@DuckieDD2) 21 May 2018

One bouquet two bridesmaids. This could be a problem ?? #royalwedding pic.twitter.com/EYVg764zoR

— TVivianB ?? (@SnookiLoveDolls) 21 May 2018

Gorgeous photo of the wedding party! Anyone know why Ivy Mulroney was not wearing the floral headband at the church & afterwards but all other bridesmaids did ??The floral headband was beautiful , designed to match Meghan’s bouquet for each of the bridesmaids #RoyalWedding2018 pic.twitter.com/Y5dAiUgwcN

— Brenda A (@B_Ander4) 21 May 2018

Love the little bridesmaid who has obviously lost her bouquet somewhere

— Brydon (@Brydon_N) 21 May 2018

Looks like one of the bridesmaids has lost her bouquet!

Aww, bless!

— Froxinabox (@Froxinabox1) 21 May 2018

MORE: THE DUCHESS OF CAMBRIDGE REVEALS THE FAMILY MOMENT SHE CHERISHES

But was a bouquet really lost? In fact, after doing some digging and reviewing footage of the royal wedding, Prima.co.uk discovered that there’s a very logical and important reason why one of the bridesmaids didn’t have a bouquet…

As you’ll see below, as the little ones made their way down the aisle, one of the little girls, Ivy Mulroney, was bouquet-free – until Meghan got to the altar and handed her own flowers to Ivy, of course! People think royal wedding bridesmaid forgot something KEY in official photos

And, since the Duchess of Sussex was pictured holding her own flowers in the official shots, that’s why it appears as if the bridesmaids were a bouquet short! So now we know! Did you spot this?

MORE: THIS IS HOW YOU CAN LEARN THE TRICKS OF THE ROYAL WEDDING CAKE BAKER (Via Prima) Images: Kensington Palace

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SnapPower’s GuideLight 2 Plus and USB Charger 2

If your home is designed anything like mine, you don’t have enough outlets for the things that you need. Inevitably, this means that you don’t have the extra receptacle space for things like extra nightlights. This problem is easily solved by incorporating a light into our light switch and outlet plates and that is what SnapPower is all about.

SnapPower Gives You Light Where You Need It

Snappower’s latest offerings include the SnapPower GuideLight 2 Plus and the SnapPower USB Charger 2.

Both of these will help to add some versatile lighting options to your home. The SnapPower GuideLight 2 Plus acts as an automatic nightlight that is built into the cover plate of your power outlet. Do you need an extra light in the hallway at night, so you don’t stumble and hurt yourself?

A nightlight in your kitchen? Do you carry a flashlight on your way to the bathroom? This solves that problem.

It provides a nice diffused light and always leaves both outlets available for use. That’s what I love most about Snappower’s products. They provide light without taking up valuable socket-space.

The ambient lighting is soothing and blends in with its surroundings. Another great benefit is that people won’t accidentally leave lights on all night. That’s going to save you money.

The SnapPower GuideLight 2 Plus is also available for GFCI outlets. You know, the ones in bathrooms and by kitchen sinks.

SnapPower gives you a nightlight anywhere.

Extra Light Where You Need it Most

Another offering from SnapPower is the SnapPower USB Charger 2. This one features two USB ports that will deliver fast charging (2.1 amps), with a slim look.

Installation is easy and it keeps your outlets free from extra power adapters when charging your phones, tablets and other gadgets. Again, it frees up valuable outlets, which if we’re honest, we never have enough of. And it’s always nice to have a light at night so you don’t hurt yourself.

Plus it stops people from turning on the brighter lights and wasting electricity.

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